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Teaching the value of love

I am the “newbie” in my line of work. This is my first official job in the human services field, and I have chosen to go head first into a “difficult” branch of human services – foster care. Do I work directly with foster children? No, I don’t. But I do see them, I interact with them occasionally, I hear and know their stories. Do I work directly with them? No, but do they impact me? Yes. I know their stories. I know the things that these small humans have gone through, and its heart wrenching. I have compassion, empathy, sympathy, sadness, anger, you name it. I have many feelings towards foster care. I have many feelings towards trauma. So I have a big job, my first job, in the field of human services and the branch of foster care. I have to teach other people who have these feelings, not to allow these feelings to overcome their ability to provide a home for a child with trauma, who will most likely be returned to the people who caused the trauma to begin with.
Fun, right?

You probably think I am crazy, and these people wanting to be foster parents are crazy, and that the time I spend teaching individuals how to deal with trauma, and be a therapeutic home, to give these children a better life, is a waste of time. Or that these individuals who become foster parents are wasting their time, because why would you spend so much time and effort, to try and change a person, then send them right back into the arms of the people who messed them up?

We aren’t crazy.

And you cannot change a person, or what happened to them to cause trauma.

But you can show them what it is like to be loved. To be in a stable home. To feel worth. And that is something that they will take with them. They will learn what love feels like, and they will learn what they are worth, and they will realize that they should not accept anything less than the love they deserve. And that, that one thing, is life changing.
I am not teaching people to fix people. I am teaching people to change lives.

 

Ashley Huffman

Recruiter/Trainer – NBFS Elizabethtown